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Do you have anything in your home that you're waiting for the perfect moment to use? A bottle of wine, a special dress that you’re refusing to wear until the perfect event? A candle that’s so beautiful and smells so good that you just won’t burn it? A TV show that you don’t want to end so you just won’t finish it? Gillian Dunn has a special trick for how we can stop letting our candles melt in the closet, and instead decide that any moment can be special.
Why do we keep ourselves from the best things in life and the simple joys, waiting for the perfect moment? Why can’t any moment be the perfect moment? The TEDx speaker we’re introducing you to today helps us rethink what a perfect moment really is, and along the way learn to really live!
Gillian Dunn is a Registered Nurse from Canada whose work in the Emergency Room provides her a perspective that is reinforced daily: on a dime, your world can change instantly. And when it does, what’s actually important becomes crystal clear.
Those excuses for why you didn’t light the candle, didn’t wear the dress, or didn’t drink the scotch? They seem completely silly. But you don’t have to live through a life-altering tragedy to take this principle to heart, you can start by simply taking advantage of the wonderful opportunities in life – no perfect moment needed.
The significance of our 'special’ possessions
“We have no problem with gathering stuff. But we have a problem with using it,” Gillian Dunn believes.
So what does “stuff” have to do with living life? Certainly that’s a shallow mindset… or is it? The stuff that we accumulate says a lot about who we are, what we hold dear, and how we see ourselves. Every time we don’t choose the finer things in our lives, we are, in some ways, saying we’re not enough, or this moment isn’t enough to be treated as special.
As Gillian points out,“These items dictate the milestones in our lives. We think to ourselves: I’ll wear it when… I’ll light the candle when… I’ll use it when… You fill in the blank. When you lose the weight? When your life finally matches your life on Pinterest? The mindset of ‘I am not enough’ keeps our clothes in our closets and our champagne going flat in the bottle.”
Why is it that in a world of so much abundance we cling to things and treat them as precious? We keep the good china on the shelf and wait for company instead of treating ourselves to a nice night in. We put off drinking the wine even on the milestone because “there might be something bigger” to keep it for. Perhaps it’s time for us to clean out those closets and drawers full of precious things!
Consider these questions:
-Do you have clothes in your closet with the tags still on?
-Do you have clothes in your closet that you haven’t worn in a year?
-Do you have a candle in your house that has never been lit?
-Do you have alcohol that you’re saving for a special occasion?
-Do you have dinnerware or china that you’re saving for a special occasion?
Gillian would bet (and we’d bet, too) that your answer is yes, to at least one of those questions.
And perhaps, deciding that any given Tuesday is the perfect time to use that china, scotch, suit, candle, or whatever it may be for you, it can change your life.
Here’s Gillian at TEDx White Rock with more powerful reasons that we should stop waiting for the perfect time, and instead just live.
Life is what you make it so make it one you enjoy
“When you put excuses on hold, the other side of that is joy. Confidence. Freedom. All of these characteristics that we had kept hidden in our closet came out when you [say]: No more excuses. Today’s the day,” says Gillian Dunn.
So, what do you have in mind right now in your house that fits the bill? What have you decided is too nice, too expensive, or too good to use? And what made you think the best time to treat yourself isn’t right now?
This applies to our words too. What have you been waiting for the right moment to tell someone? Could life be better instantly if you relinquished the desire for the “perfect” moment or setting and told them right now?
These questions are fun to ponder, but are even better when you use them to take action and start really living. So, whatever item it is that you have in mind while reading this article, go get it! Right now, decide, do you want to give it a chance or give it away? Whatever your decision you’re either making today special, or making more room to enjoy the abundance you already have!
